I recently listened to the Rise Together podcast with Rachel and Dave Hollis and this topic was brought up in their “53: How to be the Best Version of Yourself All the Time” episode. Let’s be real, it’s easy to embark on a big dream and have a stand-out day but how do we recreate that magic in the days that follow? Why do we fall back into old habits? Be sure to check the podcast out, but here are some the highlights I got out of it.
We are our best self everyday by choice. That “best self” person is always inside us, we just have to make the conscious decision to be that person. Envision you as that awesome person and start showing up as them, consistently. Set your intentions for the day before the curveball start coming at you.
Self care should not hurt you. Self care is all about doing right by yourself by treating yourself well. Drinking a bottle of wine is not “self care”. Eating a tub of ice cream because you are sad is not self care, it’s emotional eating and you will feel terrible physically and mentally 3 hours later. If an action is causing constant hangovers, guilt, shame or sickness you are not caring for your body or emotional health as you should. Figure out your most dangerous coping mechanism and call it out for what it is.
Stop sabotaging yourself. What are you telling yourself that is okay today that will kill your dreams for tomorrow? Do you feel justified in not working out because you’re tired and tell yourself you will do it tomorrow? Do you listen when your friends tell you that you “deserve” that humongous dessert since you ate a salad for lunch? It’s healthy to take a rest day when it’s truly needed and there’s nothing wrong with a little splurge every now and then, but more often then not, that one small instant gratification is all it takes for you to not only fall off the wagon, but you throw that wagon over a cliff after setting it on fire. Trust me, I’ve been there lighting those matches too.
You don’t get to step in and out of being you. Committing to a healthy lifestyle isn’t just a diet fad, it’s a commitment to your health. You can’t do something part-time and expect actual results. Stop triggering yourself to step out of that mindset just because you’re happy, you’re sad, it’s the weekend, it’s vacation, it’s the holidays, it’s your birthday, etc. Inconsistency will throw you off every time. This better self is who you are now. Stop acting like it’s a sweater you can take off when it gets a little uncomfortable.
Create a life you don’t need a vacation from. What would it look like for you to be the “You” when you feel so on top of your game, but all the time? It shouldn’t matter where you are, who you’re with or what season it is; it is just you being great at being you. It’s totally okay to relax a little more on vacation or try a new food at a cool new restaurant, but don’t let that derail you from the bigger plan. Never loose sight of your goals and you “why”.
Did any of these tips resonate with you? What has helped you stay on track in the past?